Yoo, is it hard or naw out here in these dating streets? Fools are alive and well, no matter your identification and preference. The world is our oyster, but the dating scene is sometimes an endless tragedy.
Thankfully, I am no longer on the market, but the telling aspects of my dating life suffering for years are memories to remember, reflect on and forget all at the same damn time! It was real y’all!
Interesting, to say the least. I can recollect plenty of circumstances where quality meals were had, terrible conversations were excused, and awkward moments were present. If you are along the dating ride, on an exploration of sorts for the one to make your heart flutter with permanence or even, for the time being, I’m here for ya. I was once all up in the game and I learned plenty. I only share stories and experiences to be a piece of your puzzle to get you to exactly what you desire. Let’s get to some main locations to meet your soulmate, future husband, or partner!
First, let’s all just acknowledge that intimidation exists, and based on the light you illuminate, if you spark someone’s interest, it will be your energy that will create an opening for an individual to approach you. So be secure. Be confident. Be all that you can be (this isn’t the army), but when you are in the spirit of wanting someone to get to know you, your aura should give off a reachable vibe too.
When you do meet someone, here are some tips to know you’ve found the one!
Places To Meet Your Soulmate Future Husband, Or Partner
1. The Gas Station
Listen, you can laugh if you want to, BUT if you drive and if you are anything like me, you have to hit up the gas station at least once a week. Typically you are alone, which, by the way, my friends, is one of the best ways to eliminate a bit of the intimidation factor. Not to mention, anyone with a vehicle (unless electric) has to go to the gas station too, right?! I cannot tell you how many times (before I was living in the suburbs) I would get hit on at the freaking gas station. Most of the suitors were not the business, but with a makeshift conversion rate of 1%, which is better than 0.
2. On The Train
This is for you city residents. The ones gearing up for their days, headphones in tow, and great walking shoes on their feet! If you use public transportation for your mode of transportation, please do not discount the train station or even bus stop as a way to meet your new beau. Although you may not want to be bothered, just like you, some creative, career-oriented, and good-looking peeps are heading to their destination, but you capture their attention. Use the waiting time to spark some good intro conversation – thank me later. Worst case too – you meet a new friend to have coffee or to be social with during happy hour.
3. The Grocery Store
You may call it the supermarket, but we Seattleites call it the grocery store. Either way, those aisles are big enough for two, or more, and the grocery store lines leave room for cordial conversation. Some unafraid bystanders may see you, see what they like, and be moved to give a wink. Just think, the two of you may be taking selfies in line together in a few months. All I’m saying is, don’t discount the grocery store as the place to meet your new boo.
4. On Vacation
Yep, I said it! Once called “Catnip” during a Jamaica trip in Montego Bay, I was catching Stella Got Her Groove Back vibes, and I wasn’t even trying to. Long-distance isn’t always the best scenario, nor are foreign relation issues, but hey, if you catch the vibe, run with it. Why not, you are in it to experience more, right?! Just know, vacation looks good on you!
5. At A Bar
Get comfortable going out alone. Get comfortable starting a conversation, and get ready to meet your partner in crime – the good one. Having been an implant in many new places, I had to immediately get cozy with safely going out to have a drink, eat dinner, or see a movie real quick, alone. I must admit, the solo #virgomood and #onlychild life did help, but in order to get acquainted with the city, to not be bombarded with other people’s schedules, and to meet new connections to elevate my experience in the city, I went to bars, communed with the bartender and most times made friendly bonds with fellow patrons; sometimes resulting in some a-ok dates.
6. Online Dating
Just to throw out some data, Eharmony says, 40% of Americans use online dating. I don’t know about your reaction, but whoa! I’m just saying, it’s more than likely the partner worth matching with is online dating looking for you too! Be safe when online dating. Ask in-depth questions prior to meeting. Don’t get Catfished and not talk on the phone or meet for several years, and when you do decide to meet, remember #strangerdanger. People laughed at me, but whenever I went on a date, someone always knew the guy’s full name, phone number, where we were going, and if I could see their license plate, they got that too!
7. Through Mutual Friends or Gatherings
My favorite. If you don’t already know, I met Logan through some special form of serendipity filled with a combination of mutual friends, vacation, and a gathering – a day party in Chicago to be specific. Either way, having your mutual friends hook you up, or being in the circle of mutual friends while at a gathering normally generates like-minded people to be connected making it much easier to make a solid connection with your new companion. Just note, everyone in your circle may not know you well enough to hook you up appropriately.
More than anything I want you to get out. Be more than happy to spend time single and open to the prospect of being in a committed relationship however that may look for you and your mate. The above are just options, but there may be other ideas you have, more specific and identifiable ways to meet your soulmate. Let a sista know!
I remember going through all of the crazies, the nutballs I was dating, and getting flustered at times with the nonsense. Eventually, I became devoted to my expectations, and when they were not met, I exited stage left, because, I mean, I got the goods-hah! Soon enough, I got closer and closer to attracting better candidates to match my fly, some became friends, most became foes, but most importantly…in came my soulmate, and husband.
Your time is coming!
#teamTLO
