When your Wedding Day arrives the excitement, anticipation and sometimes even anxiety are real. After all, it’s a really big day for you and your mate. After an amazing celebration with close friends and family, you’re off to a glorious Honeymoon to start your lives together. However, after you return home the real work begins. There is no resort, no friends/family at home as the journey begins! Nope, just you and your mate. In many ways, the Wedding day has an anti-climactic aspect to it. A big celebration and ceremony (and honeymoon) quickly give way the day to day grind and rigors of Marriage.
Watch how Tamika and I keep our marriage interesting.
There is no way to prepare for the ups and downs and challenges of married life after you “jump the broom”. After you say “I do” everything is official and the relationship moves to another level. That requires each of you to also take things to another level. Commitment, communication, patience, and understanding take on added and more important meaning. With a marriage commitment, you have decided to confront issues and take the time and dedication to solve problems. As I often tell my spouse, there is no running away. I often try to remind myself of the importance of communication. My spouse and I have a general target that no matter what the issue, we use best efforts to try to resolve it before heading to bed. There is something reassuring and refreshing to know that you can communicate thoroughly to resolve an issue and prevent it from carrying over to a new day. It isn’t easy, but we power through!
I bet you wouldn’t think – Tamika never wanted to get married, but she did!
Marriage isn’t just hard work resolving issues. As you settle in you discover new, interesting things about your mate. You get to watch them (and you as a couple) grow personally, professionally, emotionally, and spiritually. You get to see your mate evolve and get better and age like fine wine. The hard work, commitment, trust, and communication that you prioritize allow you to enjoy this special growth together as you embark on the most special journey of all. As always, Love makes the experience.