A couples retreat aims to strengthen your relationship while having fun trying something new together. With only 14% of people being happy and data showing quality relationships are what makes people happy, it’s time for you to think about connecting on a couples retreat. Deal?
Convincing a significant other to attend a couples retreat, on the other hand, maybe a difficult task, but don’t worry, we have you covered.
If discussing feelings like “Love Languages,” diving into your relationship, and so on is on the agenda, enthusiasm for attending a retreat may initially be low – but that’s okay! Everyone is unique, and some of us take our time getting started and ultimately…CONVINCED when something is good for you.. The reality is, couples retreats are more than you could ever expect. Just wait—
We will be you…your significant other will likely agree to a couples retreat once they understand the potential benefits. Here are a few tips on how to convince your partner to go on couples retreat with you:
First, Pitch It as a Vacation
If your significant other is still unsure what a couples retreat even is, sell the benefits of being able to live your best life in a fantastic place, with the love of their life with the best food, space, and entire environment for several days.
Like really, who wouldn’t consider taking time off to rest, reflect, and heal? Doesn’t that sound healthy? Doesn’t it sound intriguing? Ensure to promise your partner that you will do something they select to do while on your “vacation.”
In the worst-case scenario, neither of you will have to worry about preparing meals, doing the dishes, mowing the lawn, cleaning up after yourselves, planning fun activities for the kids, or driving them to soccer practice for a few days.
“Try Out New Things!”
Another thing you could say. Communication is essential.
If you’re like most couples, you’ve grown tired of the monotony of everyday life. Though you love your partner, you know that a change of pace could benefit your relationship.
Perhaps it’s time to break the routine and spend quality time with your other half on a couples retreat, where you can try new things with a group of great people OR if you want to escape away from folks a quality and luxury couples retreat will allow you to do so.
Couples retreats are known to take couples away from their daily routine and into an exciting getaway. Not to mention, data shows that those that have attended a couples’ retreat have significant positive changes in couples’ emotional closeness and intimacy. Sounds good, right?
With activities ranging from yachts to hiking on glorious nature trails, relationship counseling, champagne cheers, and miraculous food, with a side of amazing bedtimes. *Wink* a luxury couples retreat is not to be missed.
The truth is, you need to change your surroundings sometimes to create enlightenment, deepen your love and take your relationship to new heights.
Take this Opportunity to Reflect On Your Relationship
Some people decide to go to a couples retreat to try to save their marriage or relationship. Indeed, countless couples retreats are effective at preserving marriages so sure, go this route. If your marriage or relationship hits the rocks or you are on the verge of divorce, consider attending a couples retreat. It’s true, a retreat symptom may be – saving your marriage, and in the best-case scenario, in between all the activities and even coaching and speaking to like-minded couples or couples with various backgrounds, you just may get your marriage back on track as a natural occurrence.
Know, there is value in adventure, conversation, and transparency.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to share how you overcame your relationship strife? There are few things more satisfying than knowing you successfully navigated the storm.
An Opportunity to Address Difficult Subjects
It’s normal for every couple to have some issues to work out. The question is when and where to have those discussions. Unfortunately, couples frequently ignore their disagreements because they fear the potential repercussions. And in many cases, the fear of potential fallout breeds months or years of unresolved issues, eventually leading to feared fallouts and infamous resentment that is so tough to overcome.
Consider a couples retreat as an opportunity to discuss the issue(s) that caused a schism between you. During the retreat, your guard will be down a little bit, making it an ideal opportunity to engage with each other openly and honestly and make some progress on those complex subjects. Be guided by a relationship coach as well. One that can relate and trigger the appropriate messaging to enhance the likelihood of resolution.
Include Them In The Destination Selection
Because you and your partner will attend couples retreat together, you should research and choose your vacation destination as a team. A skeptical partner may be persuaded when allowed to play an active role.
If your S/O is the introverted type, have open conversations with them about the kind of place they’d be most comfortable seeing, perhaps a childhood dream destination, somewhere they’ve visited once and would love to visit again, and/or make sure to ask them to assist in screening potential cities or countries.
As a first step, we recommend listing everything you’d both be looking for in the ideal location and things you want to try. This is a great way to learn more about each other’s interests and tastes and guide the search. You can then use that list to sift through potential couples’ retreat locations. Exciting, right?
Now, Invite
If you’ve followed the advice above, it’s time to put the icing on the cake and officially invite them to a couples retreat with you. Now that you’ve brought it up in conversation, involved them in the destination selection, and gotten them on board, this is the most delicate piece. You want to say it openly without pressuring them to participate.
Remember that requests become demands when our partner believes they will be punished if they do not comply. As a result, you should present the couples retreat as an option and remind them why you brought it up in the first place.
Do your best to answer any questions, and if you’re unsure, invite them to conduct additional research with you.
But what if their answer is “No”?
Navigating a “No”
If your partner still disagrees, make it clear that you respect their decision and want to know why.
Make every effort to address their concerns openly and honestly without putting them under pressure. If you believe you have understood them, see if helping them tackle their concerns will motivate them to accompany you. For instance, if they’re scared of leaving the kids, suggest planning a mini couples retreat at home. Chances are, if that’s a success, they’ll look forward to a bigger and more intriguing escapade.
If they say no again, end the conversation and tell them you respect their decision and love them. Your partner will most likely think about it for a few days without you even having to ask.
We’ve seen in many circumstances partners come around more often than not, and fast. It’s like when you see an ad all on your device minutes after you speak out loud about something. Just let them come around on their own time. No need to rush…unless a Couples Experience retreat is coming up!!
And that’s a wrap! We hope these tips on convincing your partner to go on a couple’s retreat set the ball rolling in your relationship. Which is your favorite? Which have you tried that absolutely worked for you? Tell us all about it in the comments.
Remember, Deep breaths. And oh! Feel free to reference this list anytime.
With pleasure, Cheers!
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